Sharing @sammirobbins_ words because I think we all need to hear them. I know I did. ????????

“Did you lose your femininity?

Is it hiding deep under layers of self protection, control, achieving success and being strong because no one else could be strong for you? You don’t want to be like that but don’t know how not to be…

Did you start believing at some point because you were lacking in something that maybe you could try a different route to get the love you crave? Reaching for mans attention in building, in your brilliance, in your strength or ability to push through?

That’s what a lot of women do. Because of pain we partner with fear and try to do things to get a mans love but we do it with masculine edge.

Those protectors shut down love. Those protectors attract feminine men. The protectors breed more fear in your life. And you lose grip on that masculine essence in a man that you crave. There’s only room for one dominant masculine in a relationship. Because each relationship needs polarity.

Ultimately the thing most women crave, regardless of how we’ve been living, is for a mans full masculinity to come in and make us soften and balance us out.

But most of the time it isn’t an outside in process. Most are waiting for something in our external world to change our internal world and it does not happen that way. We must internally change so that inner change can work it’s way out to our external world.

Most of the time we won’t attract that in which we crave until something in our protective walls cracks by our own doing. Until we deconstruct the pain that led to those skyscrapers being built around our hearts… attempting to block out pain.

Healing that pain gives our hearts the courage to risk and let love in again instead of focusing all its time on protecting from what could happen.

In turn, as love gets in, your heart softens, you feel safe to surrender and let go of your partnership with fear… and the masculine is drawn to what was there beyond those walls all along…

This is where love, polarity, & attraction start to naturally happen.”